When we listen, we have a choice. We live in a our world that privileges the mind and recognizes the power of the “gut reaction.” It’s a gift to the speaker, and the listener, when we tune in with our hearts, minds and guts.
We are more present when we listen from the heart. On an energetic level, we have created the possibility of emotional resonance. Imagine a warm gaze or a hand placed on the heart. The feel of soft listening is apparent. It is spacious and welcoming.
Tuning in with the heart creates the possibility of personal connection and relationship.
So many of us want to be heard and seen. We strive to convey our passions and speak with authenticity. Yet, we are under pressure to make a quick impression, to pitch ourselves in 30 seconds, to meet the fast pace of 140 characters. We labor to create clever, catchy phrases. We can end up focusing on the mental level and lessen the impulses coming from our hearts.
The communications that stay with us, however, are often those that come from the heart. Those that touch us. We remember the vulnerability, the genuine tone, and the conviction.
Members of my weekly “no excuses” women’s group have been working on mission statements. Because our emphasis is authentic expression, we spend time speaking and listening from deep within. What we have learned is that it takes a lot of work to convey the heart and soul of our business goals. And it takes a lot of inner searching and courage.
The woman who wants to help breast cancer survivors reclaim their sense of beauty and wholeness seeks to heal deep wounds. The heart of her mission is healing. While her beautifully crafted sentences carry her mission, it’s the intensity of her voice and its crackle that takes us in. From her heart to ours, we feel the power and depth of her vision. We know that her work will be transformational.
By listening with our hearts, I believe we helped transform the experience of crafting a mission statement from one of clear language to one infused with pathos, and with that the content will be stronger.
The next time you are listening to a friend or a speaker, try opening the ears of your heart and notice the impact. I believe you will be making more room for gifts to be given and received.
