You say you want support? But do you let yourself receive it?!
Support is about an exchange. And the act of being supported or getting support is often felt in the body and the breath. In order to be supported, we have to be open to receiving, to letting someone or something hold us, touch us, or give to us. The experience of being supported involves a softening or letting go, as in letting ourselves drop some of the tension or resistance we’re holding and letting the floor or the earth support us. Sighing is an indication that we’re letting go. Relaxing muscles and tension tells us that we’re making room to be held.
When we let ourselves be supported, we make room for an exchange. We begin to give over our burden, or the weight we’re carrying. We let ourselves receive compassion, kindness and attention from another – with no agenda other than to be in relationship. Support is a release and in the process, it can be a making space for … ease, relief, another point of view, noticing who else is in the room, and ultimately for change.
Support is not help or advice. It’s a hand on the back, a safe place to cry, a hug, a nonjudgemental ear, or room to vent.
You can resource yourself by noticing what it feels like to be supported by the earth, the floor or your chair. Use gravity to feel what’s at your back and under your butt. Because there is something at your back if you let yourself feel it and give over to it.